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DBT and the Wise Mind

By Kristen Sroczynski



Good afternoon my blog family! As most of you know, I like to draw from my own experiences to model how the skills can be used in real life situations. Most of the time I try and use humor to help teach the skills, but as we just learned in the distress tolerance skill set, life without pain is unrealistic. It is about one's ability to tolerate pain skillfully without compounding it with more suffering. My own story is a somber one this week drawing from the skill of "wise mind."


I was able to spend some time with my last remaining uncle. He is 88yrs old, his kidneys are failing and only functioning at 19%. When they kidneys get to only functioning at 15%, the rest of the body shuts down. Needless to say...it's close. Reacting the way I normally would as far as completely breaking down emotionally and making a scene, I used my "wise mind" and did something different. I radically accepted that yes his time is close, but he was able to complete his last remaining goal of seeing all of the family. Instead of falling apart, I was able to keep it together for my own parents, and enjoy my remaining time with uncle Bud. "Wise Mind!"


 We learn that addiction is 50% genetics, and 50% environment. Being as that I myself am I recovering addict, and once married to a man that still suffers with the disease and is in and out of the prison system, I prayed that my son would have seen how the disease plays out and make different choices for himself. That he would have seen and felt the pain as a child coming from addicts as parents. Unfortunately, he has is having to do things the hard way. Growing up I reiterated to my son over and over how he would be super vulnerable to the disease because of having it on both sides of his family. He would proclaim, that he would never follow down the same path I took.


Today, he is singing a different tune. I took him to court yesterday facing some significant drug charges around marijuana use. For those of you that know me, I'm a highly emotional person. I wanted to fall apart sobbing, blaming myself, and pleading for him a different lifestyle. As much as I want to save him from heartache and pain, I have to radically accept that he will make his own choices good and bad. I had to implement my own "wise mind" and let him face the impending consequences of his actions.


We have come to that time in in addiction treatment DBT model where we begin the skills training from the beginning. We are learning and refining skills in changing behavioral, emotional, and thinking patterns associated with problems in living, that is, those causing misery and distress. The behaviors to decrease are interpersonal chaos, labile moods and emotions, impulsiveness, and confusion about self. The behaviors we aim to increase are interpersonal effectiveness skills, emotional regulation skills, distress tolerance skills, and core mindfulness skills.


We are starting again with the core mindfulness skill set, first focusing on the skill of "wise mind"- balancing our emotional mind with our logical or rational mind. We will then transition this week into the 3 what skills of mindfulness and then the 3 how skills. Stay tuned for more strategies to stay mindful. Have a great week! PRACTICE, PRACTICE and VALIDATE, VALIDATE!


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